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HANDLING MISUNDERSTANDINGS



So far, we've been dealing with misunderstanding. The last time we elaborated on five tips to avoid any impending misunderstanding. Since its occurrence at times could be beyond control or unavoidable, here we shall look at ways of handling misunderstanding when one is already in its mess.

Now that you've been misunderstood or you've misunderstood another person…


(a) Do not stand to be justified: It happens that everyone likes to be appraised for being right after any fuss simply because everyone has their own explanation or cogent reasons for any action. If it were not, there wouldn't be need for Judges to settle matters in courts. Claiming that you're right will only prolong matter because the other person will also find a way to claim that he's right as well howbeit you might end up taking the blame.


(b) Do not prolong any misunderstanding: The longest distance between two people is the one created by misunderstanding. Though might be physically together or close, but several miles apart in line of communication. The longer any matter remains unsettled, the longer the distance apart. To worsen it all, malice could creep in and this shows that no one is willing to succumb to the other but standing to be justified. So do not prolong any little misunderstanding. Although this lies most on the person who misrelated words.


(c) Admit it: There is need to admit that the other party was misunderstood. No one is right but no one is ready or willing to admit he/she is wrong perhaps, because of the thought that the other person might flex his muscle. The earlier one admits the shorter the distance created by misunderstanding and the earlier a peaceful arena is fostered.


(d) Be sorry for any unintended misinterpreted statement: To misunderstand a fellow isn't always an intended deed. Once the misunderstood speaker has tried to re-establish or re-explain or reconstruct his words or statement to reveal the true intent, then the one who misunderstood him should at least accept or better still feel remorse for misjudging him earlier. “To apologize doesn't always mean that you're wrong and the other person is right. It just mean that you value your relationship more than your ego”


(e) Strive to make peace: This wouldn't be until both share equal fault on the matter. But the one who admits first is said to be courageous and peace loving. This doesn't imply that the other party isn't peace loving, perhaps such might need to trim their ego. “When nails grow, we cut nails not fingers, when misunderstanding grows, cut your ego not your relationship” Being the first to seek truce isn't a sign of weakness rather of maturity and courage to enhance peaceful coexistence.


Misunderstandings could wreck a long standing relationship within a blink of an eye. It is however pertinent to avoid it or strive to make resolution once it's in play. Imagine those who were dancing; seen as insane by those who couldn't hear the music due to their own perspective. Howbeit they misunderstood dancing for lunatic display. “The best way ever to guide against misunderstanding is understanding your differences”.

Bring that age-long misunderstanding to an end today, broker the truce!




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Peace